How could you accuse God of being unfair?
Who is the judge? Who is the accuser? The accuser is someone who is envious.
Will we feel envious toward someone else if our fate or destiny are at the same level? Even the same fate isn’t going to eliminate this feeling. Selfish people will always want something better. As long as we live, jealousy and the feeling of envy will not disappear. There are two sources of envy: unfair treatment (fact) and the feeling of being treated unfairly (perception).
If all employees get the same salary, will there be envy? Sure, there is because now they will see the difference in responsibilities, skills, job performances, job risks, and the difference in how the boss treats other employees.
We cannot eliminate jealousy or the feeling of envy by changing the condition and the situation. However, we can change our point of view to eliminate this feeling. Every year, employees are looking forward to the upcoming new year, because in the new year they will get a raise or even a promotion.
The employee’s salary should be confidential, however, in reality, this has become “public secret” or an “open secret”. Some employees know how much the other employees make. When an employee receives the raise, he is very pleased. However, the moment he learns that his co-workers receive higher raises, his happiness disappears. His happiness turns into envy.
The “evil of envy” destroys his gratitude. How easy people’s attitude change just because of comparing factors! Gratitude should be unconditional, free from comparison, free from egoism. Why do people flip-flop? Those who get small raise envy the ones who get a higher raise. “He doesn’t know how to do his job, how in the world does he get more than I do?” That’s what in their mind.
Envy is just something normal to them, and they don’t feel bad about having this feeling. Are they at fault? Big mistake! They are accusing God. How come? Let’s discuss this further. We believe God is fair. God gives us what we need, that includes financial needs. This faith is in their heart and mind.
When envy comes forward, there is a contradiction. On the one hand, we believe that God is fair; on the other hand, we envy those who have a better fate than us. Our livelihood has been arranged by God. If so, when we feel envious, isn’t it the same as accusing God of not being fair? We accuse God! How dare we.
By thinking traditionally, someone only sees things in a small scope (limited). Regarding the feeling of envy, they focus on themselves and compare themselves with someone else. They think they deserve to get more.
When I was an employee, I tried to stay away from this bad feeling towards the other employee. If my co-worker got higher raise, I held gratitude in my heart: “Good for them, they deserve it. I will get higher raise in the future. It’s just about timing.” There was not an emotional burden in my heart and mind. There is always a better livelihood for everybody (abundant mentality—a mindset in which a person believes there are enough resources and success to share with others). What do we feel envy for?
There is one more. Those who envy have positioned themselves as victims, the ones who got defeated. They’re not aware of this. If it continues to happen, when are they going to have the winning attitude? Just like revenge, we can see the “missing link” between envy and the other important parts.
With the interconnection of MindWeb, we can see everything holistically—related to the whole system rather than with individual part. Someone who doesn’t see the interconnection will forget that God is fair, and because God is fair, they don’t have the right to feel envy.
Why do poor people often stay poor? It is because they embrace this mindset: to hate the rich. When the poor see
someone, who drives a Mercedes-Benz, they feel envy. By having this feeling, they don’t realize that not only do they hate the rich person but they also hate their possession, the Mercedes and the wealth. Their subconscious mind stores their dislike of wealth. With this mentality, how would prosperity come to them?
So, if we keep the positive mind towards the fortunate people without envy and hate for their fortune, we’re opening the door to our own fortune. Envy is a poison that settles in our subconscious mind, and it spreads negative energy to the people around us and ourselves. Those who envy are missing this interconnection: God and fairness, interfering in God’s affair, losing gratitude, negative thoughts that linger.
With this interconnection concept, we should have automatic self-control. When envy arises, we instantly think: “Stop! Remember, God is fair!” The more we have this self-control, the easier it is for us to do it automatically, without thinking. How nice would like be if we direct that envious energy to positive energy so we can perform and achieve something better.
“Do we realize that by feeling envy, we have accused God’s fairness?’’ —MindWeb Way—
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Author: To Think Without Thinking, MindWeb (English & Indonesian Edition), Berpikir Tanpa Mikir (Indonesia Edition).
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